by Guest Blogger, Stephen Cuddy
We are all familiar with worrying, the apparently endless turning around of thoughts in our heads, our minds buzzing with negative commentary about our lives, our imaginations creating worse case scenarios that make us feel awful and keep us awake at night.
For some people, today’s worries are tomorrow’s depression and reducing worry to manageable levels can enable you to sleep better and start to lift depression almost immediately. Source: Lift Depression – The Human Givens Approach 2018.
Indecisiveness makes it difficult to make decisions. For some people, once a decision is made, worry takes the place of indecisiveness as a primary challenge of depression. Worry can limit or prevent you from savoring the choice you made.
Many people live with depression. It is a common mental health condition. Because it’s so common, many different approaches have been devised to deal with it. Some of these are used in combination with medication, while some people have developed a response to depression completely their own, sometimes employing practices from other disciplines.
One such approach is to cultivate “rocks” which are daily practices that promote healing for the challenges of depression. The rocks are spiritual in that they are not material possessions. The rocks are restorative. The continual process of restoration provides the healing properties of the rocks.
What are the qualities of a rock?
A rock is seemingly always there;
A rock is readily available. At any hour of the day or night a rock can be called upon;
A rock can be trusted. The rock will never betray a trust;
A rock permits you to be vulnerable;
A rock is loving;
A rock is a sounding board;
A rock gives much more than it receives;
A rock never judges;
A rock never tries to fix what society says is broken;
A rock guides to safe passage;
A rock can set an example;
A rock is reliable.
Examples of rocks are relationships and pets.
Relationships - While distressed relationships can fuel a downward spiral into depression, caring relationships can create a newer, positive cycle (Depression and Relationships- The Good News about Feeling Bad; MentalHelp.net, Pat Ladouceur, Ph.D).
A pet – a soothing presence, unconditional love and acceptance, can alter behavior, distract, promote touch, make us responsible (6 Ways Pets Relieve Depression; Psych Central, Therese J. Borchard).
Asking for help – using our relationships to ask for help (Healing from Depression- It Begins with Asking for Help; Tiny Buddha, Doug Walsh). Asking for help is comforting. You get to know people and strengthen ties. The people you meet or know can often provide concrete guidance regarding the problems that are causing worry. The knowledge you gain can relieve worry.
Relationships give you sounding boards for concerns and troubles. Your connection with other people reduces isolation and can alleviate worry.
To address challenges of depression such as worry turn to the rocks in your life. Simple elements that may be in your life now or that you can bring into your life or cultivate in your life can be very helpful with worry and depression. Try them out and see what you get!
If you are living with depression, NAMI Connecticut has support groups and programs you can participate in that may help you to feel better. Go to www.namict.org and click on Support and Education for people living with mental health challenges.
Stephen Cuddy is an accountant and writer in his late-fifties. He has been written about in the Hartford Courant and New Haven Register. Stephen is a strong advocate for people with depression living a normal life as defined by them. Outside of writing, Stephen enjoys reading, running, and with the proper encouragement traveling to new places.